A pair weeks in the past, on a Cup of Jo link list, a reader named C. left this courageous remark:
PORTLAND LADIES! That is for you. I’ve been in PDX for over a 12 months now. I haven’t made a single good friend. It’s exhausting. It sucks. 30s, no youngsters. I like books, strolling and gradual operating, searching Goal, discussing superstar gossip at size, and like hashbrowns over breakfast potatoes.
Climate allowing (forecast is exhibiting solar! 🤘🏻), my sister & I can be on the prime of the steps at Mt. Tabor subsequent Saturday, January twenty second at 11:30 am (you already know proper the place the loop begins). I’ll be carrying a yellow hat.
Perhaps we’ll hit it off, perhaps this can be a clumsy encounter that can be burned into our recollections as ‘the COJ meet-up story.’ Who is aware of, let’s attempt it! Anybody who want to meet and take a stroll with us, please come be part of 🙂
Because the Saturday approached, I saved fascinated by the stroll — and, afterward, was dying to know the way it went!
So, I reached out to C. , and right here’s her recap…
We did it, Jo! 😅 The PDX meet-up was so nice. For starters, it was a stunning day. There was SUN! Omg, all of us wanted it. However even higher than the climate: 26 of us confirmed up! Are you able to consider that?! I’m nonetheless shocked not solely by the scale of the group, however how each single girl had one thing particular about her that may make her such a great good friend 🥺
What I appreciated most is that every one of us knew how freaking exhausting it’s to make buddies. And but we nonetheless had the heart to point out up and take a look at! Every of us was going through some type of problem: new to the realm, working distant, elevating youngsters, introverted, beginning over, you title it. No surprise all of us gravitate towards CoJ; everybody’s on the lookout for a group to name their very own.
Some readers would possibly ask how they might do that of their city. Right here’s my recommendation:
Step 1. Impulsively publish a touch upon CoJ for a park meet-up. Instantly suppose, “Did I actually simply try this?!” and shut out your browser. (Parks are the place it’s at for group gatherings. They’re free. It’s straightforward to listen to individuals outdoor. Mothers can convey their youngsters. Canine can come, too! Individuals can simply depart if they should.)
Step 2. Kick off with a useful “introduce your self” recreation. Attempt to not say, “That’s so superior!” after every particular person’s intro. But it surely’s okay for those who do as a result of none of us bear in mind learn how to socialize after 24 months of Zooms. Go your telephone round to get everybody’s contact information.
Step 3. Begin the stroll. Go slowly, hold the trail straightforward, pause for fairly views. However extra essential, cease at a restroom while you go one (my sister’s tip!)
Step 4. Afterward, create a bunch chat on WhatsApp or GroupMe, and ask every attendee to ship a brief blurb about themselves and a selfie for reference.
Step 5. Attain out to a brand new good friend!
How superb is that? Thanks on your awesomeness and bravado, C.!