My very first time in New York Metropolis was Could 1, 1999.
I’d simply completed my sophomore yr on the College of Michigan, and my faculty boyfriend invited me to go to his childhood house: a two-bedroom condo in a doorman constructing on the Higher East Facet. Since I had grown up within the Michigan suburbs with a swing set in our yard, this felt very international.
I used to be wildly intimidated by Manhattan. I had been to cities earlier than, after all, however New York felt like one thing else completely. The maze of streets had been riddled with folks and canines and cabs and bodegas. I felt excessive as a kite; I liked all the things about it. Two years later, after graduating from faculty and saving up, I moved to New York Metropolis in October 2001.
It’s humorous to suppose again on the previous 20 years of your life. Have you ever ever tried it? Listed here are some snippets from mine…
October 13, 2001 — A man buddy and I transfer right into a tiny condo sublet. He will get the bed room and I sleep in the lounge. The couch doesn’t fold out and there are cockroaches and I eat spaghetti each evening for dinner. However, NYC, it’s on.
October 15, 2001 — First day at Cosmopolitan Journal. My task is to cease handsome males on the road and ask them attractive questions. “Not simply common cute,” my editor tells me. “They have to be so cute that the reader stops turning the web page.”
December 12, 2002 — Interview at Vogue. Have a tag protruding of my shirt. Don’t get the job.
August 2002 to August 2003 — The 12 months That Dare Not Converse Its Title. Undecided what to do with my life, I enroll in legislation college at NYU. I purchase the books with a heavy coronary heart. I’ve a tough time connecting with classmates and really feel awkward and peculiar. My dorm room is on the bottom ground, and the window appears to be like onto a meals cart on Broadway; it smells like sizzling canine water 100% of the time. I’m going by means of an excruciating year-long breakup with a university boyfriend and my coronary heart’s in a blender.
August 15, 2003 — Determine to go away legislation college. Get three jobs to assist repay the loans. By no means been happier.
September 8, 2003 — Humorous we’re-not-in-Kansas-anymore second: I’m now working at a boutique editorial agency, and my boss loses her $300 Hermès pen someplace throughout a morning outing. She comes again to the workplace, very emotional, and asks me to trace it down asap. It’s like discovering a needle in a haystack — besides it’s an orange pen in Soho. (Spoiler: I discover it.)
September 24, 2003 — Within the evenings, I educate the LSAT for Kaplan. Throughout one class, I understand that considered one of my college students is drawing portraits of me as a substitute of taking notes. He asks if I’ll tutor him outdoors of sophistication, however as a substitute of assembly at Kaplan, he suggests a downtown bar. He wears a shirt and tie. We begin relationship.
April 12, 2004 — Get a motorcycle!
September 14, 2006 — Transfer to a third-floor condo with a roommate within the West Village. Catch 17 mice in three months. Get a cat.
November 25, 2006 — After three years, my boyfriend and I break up. He’s humorous and good, however I simply don’t see it lasting. We meet at a restaurant to say a last goodbye, and he tells me he has a ‘parting present.’ It’s an iPod, and after I flip it over, the engraving says, “You’ve made a horrible mistake.”
December 13, 2007 — Winter feels darkish and lonely.
January 1, 2007 — Start a blog to distract myself from feeling unhappy. My brother jokes that I ought to name it “Cup of Jo.” I do.
February 14, 2007 — Worst Valentine’s Day. My denims get soaked in a large puddle on my stroll house from work, and I ponder if, for me, love’s simply not within the playing cards.
February 25, 2007 — Meet a cute man in glasses at a celebration. Hmmm.
February 27, 2007 — Roll the cube and email the guy with glasses.
March 2, 2007 — Go on a date with the guy with glasses. Have a dreamy first kiss on Bleecker Road. Passersby name out, “Take a look at the lovers!”
August 11, 2008 — Begin a job at Glamour Journal.
October 31, 2008 — Get engaged to the man with glasses!!!
December 30, 2008 — Journey bikes with my brother to the J.Crew in Rockefeller Heart. Strive on wedding ceremony clothes. Pick this one.
August 28, 2009 — Get hitched.
September 15, 2009 — Strolling house from dinner, I cease by the CVS within the West Village. On a lark, I purchase a being pregnant take a look at. It’s optimistic.
April 2, 2010: Being pregnant in NYC is thrilling. Folks on the road name out, “Hello, Mama!” and cab drivers guess, “Seven months? Eight months?” After nearly two years, I inform Glamour that I’ll be leaving to deal with the child and Cup of Jo.
Could 25, 2010: Baby Toby arrives. All the pieces adjustments.
April 1, 2013: Tobes begins speaking; turns out he’s hilarious.
July 5, 2013: Child Anton arrives. After meeting his brother, Toby muses, “I need to see him once more someday.”
September 17, 2013: Burst into tears on the playground as a result of parenting two tiny youngsters is tough. A guardian angel mom walks over, hugs me and tells me it will get simpler.
January 1, 2014: It will get simpler.
August 1, 2014: Move the fam to Brooklyn. Alex’s first time seeing our apartment is move-in day. (I had gone to the displaying on my own, and flats had been renting so rapidly that we needed to make a right away determination.) Fortunately, he likes it.
Since then, we’ve bought a home, considered a third baby, muscled through haircuts, gotten locked out, thrown parties, lived with anxiety, celebrated birthdays, and done all sorts of random things on this loopy city we love a lot.
Final week, I went to the East Village to see my buddy Reagan. “Strolling across the metropolis is so humorous,” I instructed her. “I at all times see some man driving a skateboard together with his canine, or just a little woman taking part in a harmonica on the sidewalk.” Laughing and nodding, Reagan agreed: “In New York, everybody’s the principle character within the film.”
New York, I really like you. Right here’s to the subsequent 20!!!